Following Multi-Step Directions

Your child only does the first step of a multi-step instruction and forgets the rest

Steps

Give ONE instruction at a time. Wait for completion before the next
For multi-step tasks, use a visual checklist they can tick off
Chunk instructions: instead of 'Get ready for bed', say 'Put on pyjamas' then wait
Ask them to repeat the instruction back to you before they start
Use gestures alongside words to reinforce the message

What you need

Visual checklists, patience, simplified language

Why it works

Children with ADHD and Autism have limited working memory capacity for verbal instructions. Giving three instructions at once is like asking them to juggle — they'll catch the first one and drop the rest. Single instructions with visual backup reduce the cognitive load to a manageable level.

Age guidance

Critical from age 3 onwards. Even older children and teenagers benefit from chunked instructions. This isn't immaturity — it's a genuine processing difference.

Real-world example

A parent switched from 'go upstairs, brush your teeth, and put your pyjamas on' to just 'go upstairs.' When the child got there, they called up 'now brush your teeth.' Task completion went from 30% to nearly 100% overnight.

Troubleshooting

If they're not following instructions, check they heard you. Get their attention first
Reduce background noise when giving instructions
It's not defiance, it's processing. Give them time